The word relationship is very deep in it. Relationship does not limited between two people or more that two people. It can be with yourself also that means how you treat yourself. There are two kind of person one who want to take positive from all the situations and try make himself happy and the other one is who is not satisfied in any situation that decide your relationship with yourself.
The relationship is all about how much you feel connected to the other person. How much the activity of other person is affecting you. Some time value of relationship can be measure on behalf of that how much you miss anyone rather than how you love are care anyone. It’s about how much you miss his/her talks, jokes, activities when he/she is not around you, and that feeling of missing sometimes becomes very important. It can redefine your relationship. You can reinvent yourself.
The relationship does not limit to humans only. You have a relationship with the beautiful nature around you. You see the sky full of stars in the night if that makes feels you happy then it is the kind of relationship that you have with beautiful nature. If the beauty of mountains fascinates you and the voice of flowing water gives a sense of relief to your eyes and the snowfall gives you the feeling of being out of this world then believe me you are in love with the beautiful nature.
Friendship should be the basis of all relationships. Because friendship gives you space of equality and equality is very important. Everyone wants to treat equally in a relationship and then only you share anything. You can share what you do not like about him/her without any fear or hesitation. Friendship ensures neither party is having the upper hand in the relationship. Mutual respect is a much-needed ingredient in any relationship because it will nurture the relationship and give new dimensions. If you see sandwich two pieces of bread are combined with a stuffing of vegetables between the bread. So without that stuffing, neither of the bread has any taste. So we have to stuff mutual respect in the same way.
In your life, you came across relationships that completely change your life. There is some relationship that will completely change you as a person in a positive manner and fill you with positivity inside you. Some relationships may not persist for a lifetime but those have their importance. Sometimes a relationship is not about a lifetime but yes but it has an impact on you.
Marriage
For everyone marriage have a very important place because it is going to connect not only the two-person but two families, two culture, or two thoughts. Both the person doesn’t have to same in nature or their thought process should be the same. The only important point is how much the scope of understanding. That understanding should be increased with time. There should be no place for making false assumptions and judgments about your partner based on anything, habit, or thoughts. Firstly you should keep yourself in that situation and then decide.
You should not simply marry because it is the correct time, or your family asking you to marry you should decide to marry when you think you found almost type of the person you wanted. So when I am saying almost type of the person then it means you cannot always be sure that what you wanted. Let me take an example.
Suppose you want to build your home. So what the steps you followed you simple create basic architecture of your home, then prepare base of your home, then walls will be ready and your first floor is ready so you are ready to live in it. Now modifications can be goes for lifetime. At some point of time you feel that ya it’s time to change the color of walls so you will fill desire color you want. At some point you feel that this is time for to build second floor of your dream house then you will build second floor.
But point is here you don’t have requirement of changing color of walls and building second floor initially. At the time requirement may rise to do modification then you perform.
So marriage is all about design the initial layout of your life plan and start living with it and then keep changing the color of walls of your life plan and build multiple floor building of your dreams together. You can not clear with whole picture at very early stage. May be what you think is important at some point become unreasonable at later stage of your life.
So for marriage a comfort level need to be established where both the party will have comfort to say what he really think about anything there should be not be scope of manipulation. The originality need to persist. Sometime both person wanted to give their best behavior to make the the right impression on partner and for that sometime they will compromise with the originality the natural nature. So if you are doing this then might be at that moment you are able to impress your partner but for you hide your original nature and a false assumption is created about you.
Why pre marriage talk is important but not necessary
So according to me you should talk your partner before marriage. This is not because you will know about each other but that will make your partner comfortable. A girl after marriage leaves her family. So obviously she will be nervous means she needs to live with a family totally unknow for her. There might be many questions in her mind, sense of insecurity , that feeling when she think people are ready to judge her at every step. At that time if you have good bond already and comfortable relationship then may be you can help her to settle the things faster and make her comfortable in environment.
What are the signs when you feel he or she is the one for you
When you feel a connection means what are you trying to convey he or she can understand and answer you accordingly. There is no place for ego. When he or she is okay with your weaknesses and you are comfortable enough to discuss weaknesses and shortcomings. When he or she will accept you with your weaknesses and you feel accompany of him/her will overcome your weaknesses.
When you feel your like and dislike are matter to him/her and you feel sense of adjustment from him/her. When the past doesn’t matter and both should be focus on current and future then it is good sign.
When he or she slightly start taking interest in your routine life and start sharing small things then it is good sign. When someone remember the things that you talk some days before and asking about those things so that somehow a place is created.
Seems like you have experienced a lot about the relationships.
I agreed
Its an interesting perspective on relationship. I Like this article.I would also like to add that It is also required that relationship should be “worked” upon by all parties involved till it develops a high level of trust where it keeps running on “auto-pilot” mode with very little intervention.
The way you write this, showed your journey, life experience, knowledge, and a positive thinking. The examples which you put here will bring a lot of insights into solving relationship problem
Would love to get your perspective on your next blog.
Wonderful work. 😊
thank you so much 🙂